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MissPickles · 12-28-2011, 10:48 AM

I'm a total believer in good karma and positivity. I went to Whispering Canyon Cafe with my whole family to celebrate my sister's graduation. My mean-spirited and grumpy Aunt decided she wanted nothing of it because the place was "too loud," "annoying," and "full of brats." She refused to stand up or participate in any of the fun antics. My sister was bummed because we love to have fun and do silly things at Disney! After all, it was to celebrate her graduation! And, the waiters were visibly embarrassed for us. When we left the hotel that night, grumpy accidentally shut her finger in the door of the car when getting in. She started to whine like a "brat" and refused to tip the valet even though he wasn't anywhere near the car when it happened. I was so mortified of my Aunt's behavior that I paid the valet a $10 tip and apologized up and down (I was only 20 at the time and not exactly rolling in money for valet, unlike my rich Aunt).
Needless to say, grumpy lost her new digital camera the next day and had to check out of their hotel early because she got sick and wanted to go home. I was kinda relieved that they didn't stick around to embarrass me and my sister anymore.
On the flip side of that story... I went to Disney alone last year and spent hours just walking around the parks and talking to CMs asking questions to bored looking CMs, asking for advice about new attractions, watching a candy making demonstration, looking around in different places, and just being a pleasant person. I didn't ask for anything, I promise! But for some reason, everyone I spoke to gave me something. At the end of the day, I had 3 fast passes, a free hand-drawn "Dale" with the artist's signature from Art of Animation, a free rice crispy treat, two free lollipops, a free coke, and a personal escort to first aid after I fell down the stairs walking into Fantasmic only to be escorted back to the show and given a front seat after I got a few bandaids.
CMs will never do anything malicious to you if you have a bad attitude - I think karma takes care of that. I'm sure they see enough "buttholes" to just keep on doing their job as normal without a wince. But, imagine how they feel if you are a nice person who might make them pass a few minutes a bit better. It doesn't hurt to be nice and have good manners on vacation.

WarrFamily5 · 12-28-2011, 11:31 AM

You just need to outlive the Aunt and hope she remembers you in her Will?!? And yes Karma is always around the corner!

Mbarnick · 12-28-2011, 12:31 PM

I like your story Miss Pickles and agree with the morale. It made me think of the very rude mother last night on the observation deck at Cali Grill who was pushy, rude, and loud. Hope she gets her karma (I know - I'm supposed to think positively but this woman was NASTY!)

Dizzney · 12-28-2011, 12:50 PM

I always think that beign nice trumps being nasty. A thank you here and there goes a long way! Good for you for learning this early!

pacman · 12-28-2011, 12:56 PM

I like your story and yes there is Karma.

bassetbeauty · 12-28-2011, 12:59 PM

MissPickles-
I loved reading this. Thanks for sharing. It is amazing what a good attitude can do. I too am a believer in karma...what you put out into the world is what you will get back.

gmw111 · 12-28-2011, 02:03 PM

A great story and a good reminder for us all! When I lived in Chicago, any time I had to go to the dreaded DMV, I tried to remember how much harder it would be to work there than it was to stand in line for a few hours. I would try to smile and be pleasant and was often somehow mysteriously shown to the front of the line- without asking. People respond to pleasantness.

riley70 · 12-28-2011, 10:14 PM

Happiness is a choice you make. Sometimes it takes work, but a positive outlook makes all the difference. Good story. Keep the good karma going.

DVCERSINCEDAY1 · 12-29-2011, 12:24 AM

was your aunt paying for the trip for everyone? it sorta sounds like it. perhaps you should cut the old girl some slack. your perspective as a very young person might be very different from hers. and, i really don't think a public anecdote about her is very nice, particularly if she was the reason you got to go to disneyworld in the first place.

hlyntunstl · 12-29-2011, 01:52 AM

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Originally Posted by DVCERSINCEDAY1

was your aunt paying for the trip for everyone? it sorta sounds like it. perhaps you should cut the old girl some slack. your perspective as a very young person might be very different from hers. and, i really don't think a public anecdote about her is very nice, particularly if she was the reason you got to go to disneyworld in the first place.

I didn't get that impression from the OP. It sounded like she just didn't want to be there in the first place and was determined to not enjoy herself.

MissPickles - I'm glad you enjoyed your solo trip!!

12-28-2011, 10:48 AM	#1
MissPickles Waiting to pass ROFR Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Barcelona and Orlando Posts: 17	Being nice or being a pain I'm a total believer in good karma and positivity. I went to Whispering Canyon Cafe with my whole family to celebrate my sister's graduation. My mean-spirited and grumpy Aunt decided she wanted nothing of it because the place was "too loud," "annoying," and "full of brats." She refused to stand up or participate in any of the fun antics. My sister was bummed because we love to have fun and do silly things at Disney! After all, it was to celebrate her graduation! And, the waiters were visibly embarrassed for us. When we left the hotel that night, grumpy accidentally shut her finger in the door of the car when getting in. She started to whine like a "brat" and refused to tip the valet even though he wasn't anywhere near the car when it happened. I was so mortified of my Aunt's behavior that I paid the valet a $10 tip and apologized up and down (I was only 20 at the time and not exactly rolling in money for valet, unlike my rich Aunt). Needless to say, grumpy lost her new digital camera the next day and had to check out of their hotel early because she got sick and wanted to go home. I was kinda relieved that they didn't stick around to embarrass me and my sister anymore. On the flip side of that story... I went to Disney alone last year and spent hours just walking around the parks and talking to CMs asking questions to bored looking CMs, asking for advice about new attractions, watching a candy making demonstration, looking around in different places, and just being a pleasant person. I didn't ask for anything, I promise! But for some reason, everyone I spoke to gave me something. At the end of the day, I had 3 fast passes, a free hand-drawn "Dale" with the artist's signature from Art of Animation, a free rice crispy treat, two free lollipops, a free coke, and a personal escort to first aid after I fell down the stairs walking into Fantasmic only to be escorted back to the show and given a front seat after I got a few bandaids. CMs will never do anything malicious to you if you have a bad attitude - I think karma takes care of that. I'm sure they see enough "buttholes" to just keep on doing their job as normal without a wince. But, imagine how they feel if you are a nice person who might make them pass a few minutes a bit better. It doesn't hurt to be nice and have good manners on vacation.

12-28-2011, 11:31 AM	#2
WarrFamily5 Two Bedroom Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Lil' Rhody! Posts: 629	Karma You just need to outlive the Aunt and hope she remembers you in her Will?!? And yes Karma is always around the corner! __________________ GEAUX New Orleans SAINTS!! LSU TIGERS!! 2000 Dixie Landings 2003 Fort Wilderness 2004 Saratoga Springs (Home resort) 2005 Wilderness Lodge 2005 Old Key West 2005 Disney Magic Cruise (Western) 2007 Boardwalk 2008 Old Key West 2009 AKV (Kidani) 2010 Saratoga Springs 2011 Old Key West 2011 Disney Magic Cruise (Eastern) 2012 Beach Club Villas 2012 Treehouse Villas 2013 Beach Club Villas

12-28-2011, 12:31 PM	#3
Mbarnick Two Bedroom Join Date: May 2011 Location: Toronto Posts: 868	I like your story Miss Pickles and agree with the morale. It made me think of the very rude mother last night on the observation deck at Cali Grill who was pushy, rude, and loud. Hope she gets her karma (I know - I'm supposed to think positively but this woman was NASTY!) __________________ BLT & VWL OWNER 2010: Polynesian 2011: SSR, OKW, & BWV 2012: BWV, BLT, VWL 2013: BWV, BLT, VWL

12-28-2011, 12:50 PM	#4
Dizzney Two Bedroom Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Staten Island, NY when not in the World Posts: 696	I always think that beign nice trumps being nasty. A thank you here and there goes a long way! Good for you for learning this early! __________________ Proud Owner at Baordwalk Villas and Bay Lake Tower

12-28-2011, 12:56 PM	#5
pacman Grand Villa Join Date: May 2009 Location: Too far from WDW Posts: 1,348	I like your story and yes there is Karma. __________________

12-28-2011, 12:59 PM	#6
bassetbeauty Two Bedroom Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Dreamland Posts: 578	MissPickles- I loved reading this. Thanks for sharing. It is amazing what a good attitude can do. I too am a believer in karma...what you put out into the world is what you will get back.

12-28-2011, 02:03 PM	#7
gmw111 One Bedroom Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Tennessee Posts: 409	A great story and a good reminder for us all! When I lived in Chicago, any time I had to go to the dreaded DMV, I tried to remember how much harder it would be to work there than it was to stand in line for a few hours. I would try to smile and be pleasant and was often somehow mysteriously shown to the front of the line- without asking. People respond to pleasantness. __________________

12-28-2011, 10:14 PM	#8
riley70 Grand Villa Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Virginia Posts: 1,642	Happiness is a choice you make. Sometimes it takes work, but a positive outlook makes all the difference. Good story. Keep the good karma going.

12-29-2011, 12:24 AM	#9
DVCERSINCEDAY1 Grand Villa Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 3,167	was your aunt paying for the trip for everyone? it sorta sounds like it. perhaps you should cut the old girl some slack. your perspective as a very young person might be very different from hers. and, i really don't think a public anecdote about her is very nice, particularly if she was the reason you got to go to disneyworld in the first place. __________________ Barb & Family (Darcy, Sweetie, Skip, Rose, and Joey )

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